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Overthinking – a few tips on getting out of your head

JulietaClinical Psychologist, Dr Julieta Castellini has seen a lot of clients who overthink their problems. Their stories, along with her own research and study into this problem have allowed her to put together some helpful advice for people who just dont seem to be able to stop worrying.

 

 

 

What is overthinking?

 

Have you ever had the experience of going to a social event and afterwards thinking and re-thinking what happened? Or perhaps getting caught up in thinking over and over about how decisions you may have made will turn out in the future? These are two classic examples of overthinking.

 

Overthinking involves narrowing your attention to focus on unpleasant feelings that you might be experiencing, such as sadness, anger or worry. By overthinking, we focus more on exploring possible causes and consequences of these unpleasant feelings, rather than spending time thinking through ways of addressing the problem. As we aren’t really dealing with the problem at hand, overthinking tends to make us feel worse in the long run. If you are overthinking experiences that occurred in the past, we call this rumination, and if the overthinking is about events or situation that may occur in the future, we refer to this as worry.

 

When should I do something about it?

 

It’s a normal, human reaction to overthink situations from time to time; however there may be times when overthinking gets out of control. A handy rule is if overthinking is getting in the way of your daily routine (e.g. going to work, parenting your children, engaging with friends), then it is likely to have become a problem.

 

What can I do?

 

Overthinking is not like a button that can be pushed on and off, but there are ways to manage it, with a bit of practice. Here are some tips:

 

Mindfulness: When you find you are getting caught up in overthinking, come back to the present moment and focus on what you can experience in your body. Ask yourself, what can I hear? What can I see? What can I smell? What can I taste? What can I feel with my skin? By focusing on what is happening within our bodies, it can help us to have a break from our worry and rumination and gain perspective on what we were overthinking

 

Change your environment: Sometimes we get caught in a rut in our overthinking. By having a change of scenery, this helps to get us out of our head. Try going for a walk, opening some windows or putting some music on.

 

Get active: When you notice yourself getting caught up in overthinking, try to stop and get involved in doing something else. This might be playing with your kids, reading, cooking or enjoying a hobby. When we are doing these kinds of activities, it’s hard to have as much focus on overthinking.

 

Problem solve: Instead of spending time getting caught up in the whys of how a situation may have come about, try to focus on thinking through your opinions in this situation. What can I do now? It might even be worthwhile to write down a list of the options you have, along with upsides and downsides to each option.

 

Talk it out: It can be incredibly helpful to talk out our worries with supportive family or friends. This gives us an opportunity to air what we are thinking and gets some perspective from others about it.

 

If you find that your overthinking is getting in the way of other important things in your life, it may be helpful to talk to your GP about whether it is worthwhile to speak to a psychologist about other ways to manage this.

 

Overthinking – a few tips on getting out of your head2023-08-21T15:33:39+10:00

Benchmark Report Card 2014

How effective is your psychologist ?

 

In 1956 an English psychology professor named Hans Eysenck threw the cat amongst the pigeons amongst psychology circles by publishing an article that effectively stated “there is no evidence that psychological therapy works”.  Eyenck’s analysis of the available data was both scathing, and unfortunately true.

 

As […]

Benchmark Report Card 20142019-03-26T20:10:34+10:00

Is your child a worrier ?

Psychologist, Ivan Pickert has some advice for parents of worried children.  Worry can be extremely upsetting for children as well as parents, with many of us not knowing what to do.  Even worse, worry can almost seem contagious as we begin to worry if the worries of our child are […]

Is your child a worrier ?2023-08-21T15:35:00+10:00

5 Easy Ways to Cut Down Your Drinking

With the silly season almost over for another year, some people will have found that they have gotten into a habit of drinking more than they intended.  While drinking more than you intended in itself doesnt qualify as having a drinking problem, it is the kind of […]

5 Easy Ways to Cut Down Your Drinking2023-08-21T15:35:29+10:00

CBT for Psychosis: Comprehending the Incomprehensible.

7 August, 2015 - 7 August, 2015

2/21 Mt Gravatt-Capalaba Rd

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 Jenni ssDr Jennifer Wilson

After completing her clinical training and PhD in 2013, Jennifer has divided her time between general private practice and working with Queensland Health in a research capacity to develop and pilot test a cognitive behavioural treatment program for people with schizophrenia. As a result, psychotherapy for psychosis has rapidly become an area of interest and passion. Jennifer’s other interests include working with couples from an emotionally-focused therapeutic framework.

Abstract

In recent years, awareness has been increasing of the importance of early identification and treatment of psychosis.  But what role can and should psychologists play?  For many of us, our training in the treatment and management of psychosis has likely been limited to screening for symptoms and referring for psychiatric care.  Within the public mental health system, the dominant model is still one of medication plus case management.  However the past 20 years has seen a growing body of evidence emerge supporting the effectiveness of CBT for psychosis as an adjunctive therapy.  This presentation will provide an introduction to understanding and working with people with psychosis, and how psychologists can adapt and apply their existing skills to assist people with psychosis.

 

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CBT for Psychosis: Comprehending the Incomprehensible.2019-03-26T20:10:35+10:00

How much screen time is too much ?

Dr Aaron Frost gives some advice not only on how much screen time children should have access to, but also on what type of screen time causes the most problems.

How much screen time is too much ?

I get asked this question at least half a dozen times per week. Parents are worried about the amount of time their kids want to spend sitting in front of the TV, iPad, DS, PlayStation, Xbox and various other consoles and hand held devices.  They often tell me things like, “my kids are absolutely feral after they spend a big chunk of time playing games”.

When I ask, "why don't you just remove the screens?", I get one or both of the following replies:

“I need the time, and leaving them on a computer to play games gives me a chance to catch up”,

“All my kids' friends are online, and this is how they communicate with each other, I don’t want him/her missing out”.

There are some real potential benefits of having technology in children’s lives, but it can often come at a cost.  The challenge for todays’ parent is to figure out how to get the greatest benefits for the lowest costs.

Before I say anything further, it is worth highlighting that the American Academy of Paediatrics has released well researched guidelines clearly stating that two hours per day of screen time is the upper limit for a child.  This is really helpful advice, and sets a good limit.  But what I want to talk about in this article in what type of screen time rather than how much.

In my observations both as a parent and a child psychologist, there are three basic types of screen-based activities that a child engages in, and each appear to have different consequences.

The first is mindless screen time. This includes games such as candy crush, Plants vs Zombies, binge watching ABC for Kids, and most console games.  Children spending large chunks of time engaged in mindless screen time will often seem most ‘feral’ immediately afterward.  There are a two main reasons for this.  Firstly, children engaged in mindless screen time are less likely to eat, drink and go to the toilet; emotions and behaviour in kids are driven by basic biology far more than most of us realise. Secondly, research conducted by Dr Grant Devilly and his colleagues found one of the main problems with mindless video games is that they don’t have a clear end point.  When a child is reading a book, it is easy to put it down at the end of a page, however, when a child is killing zombies, or lining up shiny jewels there is no clear end.  When they are finally forced off the game by their parents, children then experience high levels of anger and resentment. This is often where the “feral” mood sets in.

Mindless screen time should be avoided as much as possible, and it is up to parents to limit children’s exposure to this.  Mindless video games are designed by their manufacturers to be compulsive, which is how they become best sellers.  They are the junk food of screen time; a bit is ok every now and then, but too much too often is going to cause problems.

The second type of screen-based activity is engaged, and actualy involves the child’s brain being active.  Some of these screen activities are educational, most are not, but the key point here is that the child is mentally stimulated and fully engaged.  Please note that I am not a games reviewer, and do not endorse or have not been paid by any of these companies, but here are some examples to give you an idea of what to look for when shopping for games.

Reading Eggs  

This game is aimed at younger children learning to read.  It is engaging and educational, and designed to have small chunks of learning which matches the attention span of the children it is aimed at.  There are lots of natural breaks, and it is easy to say to a child “come off the computer when this level is finished”.

Tiny Bang Story

This has been a recent discovery for our family.  It involves a beautifully hand drawn world that has experienced a tiny explosion that has jumbled up all of the technology.  The task of the child is to find all of the pieces and to put the world back together, one level at a time.  It involves lots of lateral thinking, creative problem solving, and again there are many natural breaks for the child to step away form the screen.

 

 

Crayon Physics

This game involves a series of deceptively simple puzzles.  In each puzzle, the child has to move a ball from its start point to an end point by drawing things.  Everything they draw has real properties in physics. For example, if you draw a square in the air, gravity will make it drop the ground. If the square hits another object on the way down, this will cause the object it hits to move relative to the length of the drop and the size of the object.  Children have to figure out how to solve each puzzle using the properties of the objects they draw.  Once again, their brain is engaged, and there are lots of natural breaks incorporated.

 

 

This type of active screen time appears to be far less unhealthy for children (up to the time limits above).  They are less likely to have huge tantrums when finishing, and the compulsive nature to their play is greatly reduced.  These games are also excellent as they offer great opportunities for you and your child to do something together.  You would be amazed at how quickly the entire family will get involved in trying to figure out how to push a tiny red ball up a hill.

The final type of screen time is creative, and involves children using their imagination to create things using a computer.  Examples include Crayola DigiTools, iMovie, Photoshop, Lego Island and even a game like Minecraft.  The key element to all of these games is that the child uses their imagination and is creating things.  When a child is using one of these applications, their behaviour afterward appears to be no worse than if they had spent an hour drawing pictures or painting.  Obviously, it is important that computer based creativity doesn’t replace real world creativity, but these types of screen based activity should be looked at more in the light of a modern version of arts and craft.

However, even these type of activities don’t always get a completely clean bill of health.  Some of these activities have a multiplayer component which can be just as addictive as any mindless computer game.  While there is nothing fundamentally wrong with multiplayer games, the social element draws some children (especially those who are less socially successful in real life) into spending far more time on these games than they had intended, and this can lead to them becoming very compulsive.

They key point here is that as parents it is important for us to learn about what our kids are playing.  What they are playing is at least as important as how long they are playing.  It is worth spending the time getting to understand the games they are interested in and what it is about these games that is attractive.  Think about the mix of mindless games, vs creative and engaged games, and notice how your child reacts to both long and short periods of playing these games.  Who knows, you might find a game you both enjoy, which can become a real relationship building activity for you.

Please note:  Aaron has not received any kind of payment for his opinions regarding these particular products.

How much screen time is too much ?2023-08-21T15:35:58+10:00

The right psychologist for the right client ?

On Friday night, we were lucky enough to have leading psychological researcher Prof Analise O’Donovan give a presentation at Benchmark about the factors that make psychotherapy relationships work or fail. Analise has had a long passion for the question of what makes psychological therapy work, and was presenting some research […]

The right psychologist for the right client ?2023-08-21T15:37:07+10:00

Six ways to get the most out of seeing a psychologist

Whether you are looking for help with long-term trauma, or simply looking for help managing your weight, seeing a psychologist for therapy can be daunting.  There can be a lot of stigma associated with therapy, and even without that it is still an expensive process where the outcomes can be […]

Six ways to get the most out of seeing a psychologist2023-08-21T15:41:23+10:00

Affordable Psychology Therapy Option

Benchmark Psychology is pleased to announce that we will shortly be taking on an intern psychologist.

 

What is an Intern Psychologist ?  

 

An intern psychologist is someone who has completed their undergraduate psychology degree, and achieved an academically high enough standard to be selected for the intensely competitive honours year.  They […]

Affordable Psychology Therapy Option2023-08-21T15:42:12+10:00